ARE YOU ON THE RIGHT WAY OF PARENTING?

Every parents want their children to grow up and become successful people. Are you on the right way of parenting in order to get this sweet result, they have to spend a lot of time as well as efforts to learn and apply for their real life. Good news for you if you see below 8 signals of right parenting. Then, just keep and do it.

1. Your child feels free to talk to you when they are facing problems or getting hurt

You can proud that whenever your child has any problem, you are the first people they think about. It means that you have built the trust into your children that you can help them resolve their troubles. Don’t care about the small or big issues. Whenever they come to you, just open your mind to listen and share the feeling. Then, give them some advices or solutions. This creates the closed relationship to open for communication about everything in their life.

2. Non-critical and non-labelling to your children’s behaviors

You better focus on the behavior of the children rather than label them as naughty, good, bad. lazy, greedy, .. For example, when your children wakes up late. Let talk to them that they need time to prepare the proper breakfast, do some exercise before going to school. It’s much better than keep saying that “you are so lazy”. Your critical feedbacks gradually keep in their mind and will have negative results later on.

3. Your child expresses their feeling in front of you without hiding

You know that this is a signal of right parenting. Now, you become friend to share the feeling with your children. Regardless of fear, sadness or anger, they can find you to express their emotion. It means that they feel safe when they are with you. For some parents, cannot get the thinking of their children is the biggest trouble. It’s telling that their relationship needs to be improved better.

How can be a friend of your children? Just easy. Don’t shutting down or distract your child out of their feelings. In stead, you should show your appreciation and attention to their story. It proves that you understand their perspective.

4. Love together with boundaries that can keep the children safe

It’s undeniable that parents always love their children most. But, the love should come with some boundaries to keep safe for the children. Maybe, at the beginning, both or at least the children will feel uncomfortable. But children without limits will end up with a lot of troubles later on.

Have you tried to set some limits in your family such as: respectful language towards family members, bedtime routine, memorable events to gather all family members, … If yes, congratulation! You are on the right way of parenting.

5. Encourage children to pursue their interests

Pursuing passion and being proficient help children have the feeling of respect and achievement. It’s great that people can pursue and become excellent in the field they love. A lot of parents teach and orient their sons or daughters to follow their thoughts and ambitions. Sometimes, because of unfulfilled dream, they have their children complete it. But, remember that when you oblige a child to implement your own purposes, all things can become wrong, even it looks like right.

6. Your children can discuss and express their thought without fearing of your reaction

It is another positive signal of an accepting, open, and flexible parent-child relationship. Some parents restrict the communication with their children such as over-reacting to thoughts or feelings they don’t like or some silly questions from their kids.

Some parents appear so fragile if the eyes of their kids that they don’t want to create more burden to their parents. That’s why they seldom or never dare to express any opinion that might cause hurt to their mom or dad even they think it’s true.

7. Signal to show you are on the right way of parenting appears when you admit and fix your faults

Willing to repair the relationship with your children is a signal of being a good parents. Sometimes, you let your emotions out of controls so that hurt your beloved kids. The next step, please accept your mistake and fix it!

Frankly talking with your children how you wished you had behaved to avoid the bad feeling. Or explaining about your feelings at that time had prevented you from responding correctly. You can try other ways as if it can help you to improve your communication with your children after the argument.

8. No any comparison with others is another right way of parenting

Every children has their own characteristics. Therefore, don’t compare them with others. The comparison will hurt your kids and let them be more frustrated. The best thing of your parenting process is try to make your sons or daughters become better than yesterday. When you feel comfortable to cope with outside judgments, you are on the right way to become happy parents.

There are some other points that prove that you are having a proper parenting. No matter how it is, the critical thing I want to mention here is that parents have to be the closest friend that the children can give their trust and rely on.