In the past, social networking was a lot of fun, but then using social media started affecting my self-esteem. Toxic items were removed from my life by Marie Kondo, which completely transformed the way I live and parent.
One day, as I was going through my social media account, I found myself feeling sour for no apparent reason. “Pinterest perfect” life photo changed my mood, and I knew what it was. There is one in particular that you are familiar with. Because she’s not just any mom, she’s a fun mom. She lavishes praise on her adoring husband. The fact that she seems to have it all together makes you feel inferior.
Social networking, which should be entertaining, was wreaking havoc on my life so I decided to remove my accounts, and I immediately felt relieved and enlightened. Continued contentment confirms that I made the proper decision of stop using social media for myself. As a result of the following factors.
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A NEW VIEWPOINT WHEN I STOPPED USING SOCIAL MEDIA
This realization hit me hard after removing myself from using social media. Oversharing (“sharenting”), one-upping, and humble braggadocio became apparent to me as a way for many people to gain attention, praise, and validation. However, when we’re alone, we’re not as happy as we appear on social media. For the sake of displaying perfection and superiority, we hide our truths and our sorrow. My participation in this was stressful and harmful. In addition to being incredibly liberating, eliminating all of this from my life has many other benefits.
PRODUCTIVITY INCREASE WITHOUT USING SOCIAL MEDIA
What was most troubling was that social networking had turned into a massive waste of time for everyone. While browsing through my newsfeed, I would often find myself in a zombie-like lethargy, sucked down the rabbit hole of insipid babble. On some level, I would end up on the dog-profile of my old college roommate’s brother, his fiancée and her closest friends. Meal preparations would be underway as children fought among themselves and I would be entirely unaware.
Even now, I cringe at how much time I’ve wasted reading about celebs and old friends. My productivity has skyrocketed as a result of all the extra time I have today. After watching one episode of Chopped, I’m convinced I’m a cook. Cooking expensive meals and preparing intricate bento lunch boxes has been on my to-do list. No matter how many times I try to impress them, they don’t seem to appreciate my efforts.
Due to the fact that time is our most valuable resource, as parents, we must be very careful with how we spend it. For me, it was incredibly frustrating to see it abused. Without the existence of social media, I have a lot of time to spend time to join various activities with my kids.
And I was also motivated to tidy my home and give all of my children’s infant stuff as well as their outgrown toys and clothes.” Until I understood that my house couldn’t stay that way for much longer, I enjoyed living in a basic environment. To my dismay, I discovered that my house couldn’t remain minimalistic while I was raising a family, so I think it’s time to find a new goal.
IMPROVE MENTAL HEALTH
It’s like trying to keep up with the Joneses in the digital age, and playing the comparison game began to badly effect my perception of myself and my children. Photos of exotic travels made me feel stale and ordinary. Why wasn’t I able to shed the baby weight as quickly as she did? Compare my kids’ behavior to that of the well-mannered children I saw. I was envious of working moms’ careers. It made me feel bad when the stay-at-home moms attended class celebrations throughout the day after I returned to work. All the photos made me feel inferior in some manner, which was absurd given I have a wonderful life.
It has been cathartic to remove myself from the invisible “competition.” Who gives a fudgesicle about what Supermom Susie Sunshine and her rockstar kids are doing because…I have no idea. As a result, my family and I do things at our own pace without worrying about whether or not we’re keeping up with the rest of the world. Since I no longer compare myself and my family to others on the internet, I have a much more optimistic outlook and feel less nervous after I stopped using social media.
ENJOY EVERY MOMENT BUT NOT USING SOCIAL MEDIA
Distracted parenting, of which I was guilty, is just as deadly as distracted driving. In order to avoid being constantly distracted by my phone while spending time with my children, I now strive to be actively attentive and focus solely on them.
Since the day is finite, I can’t afford to waste any of it watching mind-numbing nonsense on my phone instead of spending time with my children and developing real relationships. Due to the fact that I am no longer online, I am able to spend more time with my family and friends, who undoubtedly deserve my complete attention.
I’ve also realized that I don’t have to flaunt off how fantastic my life is on my social media page to prove how great it is. Now that I’m no longer striving to make my life look spectacular online, I’m free to simply live. You may still have a good time with your family and not worry about how it will seem on social media. No one can hear a tree fall if no one is nearby to hear it. Has it been enjoyable if no one will be jealous? A emphatic “yes” to that question if you decide to stop using social media!
Now I can actually talk to individuals instead of just reading their status updates on Facebook. As much as I enjoy my children’s playdates, I really enjoy catching up with their mothers! In addition, not leaving a digital trace means that my kids won’t have anything to be furious about in the future.
CONCLUSION
In spite of the fact that using social media has many wonderful qualities, for me the problems exceeded the pros and it became toxic. The decision to quit cold turkey is not for everyone, but for me, it was the correct one.
As a result, I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the satisfaction and extra time this affords me to do other, more constructive things like over-analyze that perfectly normal conversation I had with that mom at the park, brush up on new lingo to embarrass my kids with (yet! ), or clean the kitchen only to destroy it two minutes later. For me, stop using social media is the correct decision that makes my life better.
How about you? Have you ever thought about your life without using social media? Let try and you will see the miracles.
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